This was something I was never taught. It took me from age 25 to 27 or so to begin to understand the power of directing my mind. What can you control?
You can control your effort, your output, your focus, your style, your discipline, your exercise routine, your diet, your hydration, your sleep — you can control where you place your attention, and study things that interest you. We are often simply unaware that we can control our perspective, because the education system and pop-culture do such a stellar job of directing you towards external validation.
So if you have a negative belief about yourself, your capabilities, or your appearance, then you are limiting your own possibilities. Pessimism is just a road to getting away from responsibility. By accepting your current circumstances, and removing the negative framework in your mind, you can begin to change.
It may. Make your mind work for you. Denial of a responsibility-based framework prevents you from acknowledging your faults, and from discovering what you might do to change your situation.
Most things you want are possible, if you are willing to put in effort. Maybe for a good long while. Life is a brutal game. If you have a negative frame: this may be caused by negative programming from your childhood, or your current environment. If you can learn to coach your mind along during moments of negativity, you can guide yourself to higher levels in life — and become the greatest version of yourself.
Always keep in mind — The key to success in life is to stay goal oriented; and in doing so prevent your emotions from dictating your behavior. Victims are governed entirely by their emotions, and have no self-control. No ability to self-regulate. As you tell yourself these positive reframes more over time — and apply their logical conclusions into behavioral modifications, you begin to change your whole personality and attitude. Positive Reframe: I am strong enough to handle this, no matter how bad it feels right now.
Positive Reframe: I take full responsibility for the choices that led me to this situation. Positive Reframe: They are doing the best they can with the information they have, just like me.
Positive Reframe: There is a lot of bad in the world, I accept that. But there is good in it as well. You can also use positive affirmations, when you need to boost yourself. Check out some examples below —. Use these cognitive reframing tools to set your mindset towards positive thinking, productivity, and accomplishment. It is vital that when you experience a moment of negativity, you find the good within the bad — and then immediately turn that into a productive action.
Negative people do not take action on big goals — only those who believe in abundance will do this. If you feel so inclined, return to this page and read these re-frame lists every day; learn them and think them to yourself whenever you need to re-frame your perspective and keep yourself on the path to who and what you want to be. Love what you're reading? Sign up NOW to get instant updates from RiseAboveLifestyle - including content, exclusive deals, and the latest in men's personal development.
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Does this mean ignosticism goes further than apatheism? Or could we say that the true apatheist doesn't even care whether the proposition has semantic value or not? Well, if I asked people whether they believed in life, they'd never understand what I meant. It's a bad question. Any decision is only meaningful in terms of present action: try to revert the consequences of the past action, ignore it, write down a big note to avoid such mistakes in the future, etc.
Cognitive reframing consists of changing the way people see things and trying to find alternative ways of viewing ideas, events, situations, or a variety of other concepts. A point of view, or opinion, is a chosen option within a given frame , one possible answer to a given question. The frame is the question itself. If you don't like the set of possible answers, you have to change the question. That's exactly what Don Draper meant when he said "if you don't like what is being said, change the conversation".
You don't just voice a different opinion within a given conversation, you change the conversation itself, the topic being discussed.
The topic can be a certain angle, way of seeing a given issue. Seeing this issue in a completely different way becomes a wholly different conversation. It's the meta level. You don't win by letting your opponent set the rules , then playing by those rules. You win by rejecting his rules and then playing and winning by your own rules.
That's it. I reject your reality and substitute my own. Winning within a given frame may be irrelevant in some other frame. You should, for instance, often ask yourself the question: Is this peer group worth impressing? Being admired by a group of drunkards for holding up your drink , for instance, might not get you the same admiration from a wholly different group of people.
It's about changing the frame, not changing people's opinions within that frame. The goal is not to convince the group of drunkards to admire you for your talents with the violin instead, but to find another peer group.
Of course, when it comes to game, relative power, being the alpha male of the tribe, is often the most important. But remember that game isn't everything. And that if you find yourself losing within a frame you dislike, you'll be much better off changing the frame, by changing location, people, approach, attitude, or expectations.
Religion is an example of having to change the frame, as we've seen above. For religious people, say Christians, there is one God, he's the way their holy book describes him, and the only question within that frame is whether you believe in him or not.
They even created a word, "atheism", for someone who doesn't believe in their God, and another word, "agnosticism", for someone who is unsure of the answer to that one specific question. Well, I won't answer that question, because I'm not interested in that question. I reject their frame. I reject the conceptual validity of the question ignosticism and its relevance apatheism. Politics, as well, has to be reframed.
The usual frame is party politics, and the possible answers to that question are usually in the form of various candidate names. I reject that frame. My frame is instead: who is initiating the use of force, and thus being a criminal? And what is the best use of my time in protecting myself and others against criminals? Likewise, you'll get sucked into debates that you can't win. Why accept those debates? Is the answer relevant?
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